Shrek's Onion

As I am a first grade teacher, please indulge me by allowing me to use an analogy Shrek used. Shrek said that ogres are like onions. . . they have layers. Well, in that case, Dottie is like an ogre. As people get to know me, there are layers that they are gradually exposed to over time. It might be something a little like this. . .
Layer 1 (the outside): Dottie is very quiet.
Layer 2: Dottie is quiet, but smiles a lot and seems to be a generally happy person.
Layer 3: Dottie is friendly and laughs at everybody's jokes. She is an all around good girl.
Layer 4: Dottie is a bit of a workaholic, but once you get her away from work she can be spontaneous and lots of fun.
Layer 5: Dottie cares about people.
Layer 6: Dottie is easy going and doesn't take life too seriously.
Layer 7: Dottie has a serious problem about being unable to say no to people.
Layer 8: Dottie has a serious independent streak in her.
Layer 9: Dottie has a suprisingly dark, sarcastic, semi-crude sense of humor.
Layer 10: Dottie has unpredictable mood swings.
Layer 11: Dottie has a tendency towards self-defeat and depression.
. . . and the list could go on and on about all the ugly things about myself that I don't openly expose to the general public.

The point of all of this is not to show that I try to hide things from people, I don't really think of it that way. You see, I am more than willing to show these sides of my self. It is nice to know that somebody (or a few somebodies) really know(s) you, warts and all. However, there is a natural progression to these layers. Intimacy with others should not be forced and if the intimacy is one-sided it is even worse.
So what happens to Dottie when someone who is at let's say layer 2 or 3 slices through to something like layer 9 with no regard to the natural progression of things and no knowledge of all the other layers they missed along the way? Well, Dottie would feel like she is walking around in Cairo in nothing but her underwear while everyone else remains fully clothed.